Bumble, Tinder, Hinge... Hollywood ?

(yes... I am absolutely OBSESSED with them...)

Not too long ago, I was scrolling on TikTok — as I often do — when I came across a girl talking about how the current alignment of the planets was ideal for opening a “love portal,” and that it was the perfect time to manifest things in your love life.

That got me thinking — as my mind tends to wander — about all the people who might have tried to manifest a celebrity into their life. And right then, a random question popped into my head :

“Why do A-listers always date each other?”

I know that’s a bit of an overgeneralization — obviously it’s not always true — but let’s be real: nowadays, a lot of public figures seem to date people from their own circles. Celebrities dating other celebrities has almost become the norm.

And honestly, something about that doesn’t sit quite right with me.

As someone who believes in true love, and who genuinely thinks that everyone on this planet has "their person" — their soulmate — it's honestly hard for me to wrap my head around the idea that, out of nearly 8 billion people, every single VIP just happens to find theirs in a co-star, director, singer, dancer, or model.

I mean... really? What are the odds?

It feels a little too convenient. Almost like love at that level isn’t always about fate or deep connection, but more about proximity, status, or being in the same bubble. And for someone who still romanticizes the idea of soulmates — of crossing oceans for love, of the unexpected, the magical — it just doesn’t sit right.

I know it can happen — I mean, I don’t know them personally, but I’m genuinely convinced that couples like Blake Lively and Ryan Reynolds or Ashton Kutcher and Mila Kunis are meant for each other. Some love stories just feelreal. But I’m not sure that’s the case for everyone else.

And yes, I know that not everyone dates because they’re in love — and that’s okay too — but still…

I dont know; Maybe I feel this way because I consider myself, in a joking way, a bit of a “nobody", in the sense that i'm not a famous person. I’ve had so many of those moments where I thought “omg, this person and I would totally be friends — if they even knew I existed.”

And maybe that’s silly, but I think a lot of us have felt that. At the end of the day, celebrities are just people — or at least, that’s how I choose to see them.

And here's the thing : even if I don’t fully get it, I kind of understand it.

First of all, as Chace Crawford said in his interview with Alex Cooper on Call Her Daddy, actors — especially young ones — spend so much time with the people they work with, that it’s only natural for them to start feeling some sort of connection. Maybe it’s real, maybe they just vibe, or maybe they’re just caught up in the bubble.

And as Penn Badgley and Ryan McCartan have pointed out — when it’s literally your job to fake chemistry with your co-star, it becomes hard to draw the line between what’s real and what’s not. That emotional blurring makes everything confusing. It’s not always about love — sometimes it’s just habit, routine, familiarity.

It must also feel a lot safer and more convenient, to date someone when you don’t have to worry about their intentions — when you know they’re not there for the fame or the money, because they have it too. I think that it creates a sense of equality, of mutual understanding... and I respect that. But maybe they’re not always there for the right reasons either...

And also — and this is where it may be complicated to envision but — not everyone is out to use you. There are so many people in this world who are wealthy but not famous, or neither wealthy nor famous, and they’re not necessarily chasing clout or money.

It’s kind of sad, honestly — the idea that someone genuinely interested in getting to know you, someone with no hidden agenda, might automatically be dismissed just because they’re not “in the same league"... That trust becomes such a luxury that real connection starts to feel risky.

I just wish more people — especially public figures — would try to open up a little more. Meet someone outside the bubble. Talk to other humans like them (and no, childhood friends don’t count).

Even if it’s just to be friends — OH MY GOD — they’re missing out on so many genuinely amazing people. People who don’t want the spotlight, who just want to know the real person underneath it all.

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