Stop trying to be cool !

We, as human, always tend to think that in order to be appreciated by others we need to be cool. As a matter of fact, to embody that "coolness", we think that we have to follow some kind of role model - an influencer, a model, an actor - someone who's lifestyle inspires us and that we think is cool. So what we do is that we mimic. Small actions like the way the dress, the restaurants they eat at, the types of activities they do and the type of people they hang out with... We try to find a little bit of them in us so we too, can be cool (as we find them).

For the longest time, I thought that this was what needed to be done in order to be cool. Taking example from the greatest to be perceived like so. But then, I started to wonder : "Do my role models have role models ?"

"Do the coolest people I know also have this special someone they think is cool ? Someone they follow in order to define their rights and their wrongs ?"

The thing is, all those humans that we take as guides and models are people too; people like me and you. So what makes them stand out ?

"What make the people I find cool, actually cool ?"

I started to wonder and to analyse people, trying to figure out what was so special about them. What was so similar in all those differences and why was I drawn them; to it. This similarity in them.

That’s when I figured it out : the what and the how. All theses people are so cool to me simply because they do not care.

For me, the coolest people are the people who don’t care. About what they should or shouldn’t do, about what the others think of them, about what they have to say about them; they just don’t care. What makes them cool is their uniqueness, the way they do things because they do it their way. They embrace they singularity.

If I could give you an advice, It wouldn’t be not to care because I know… . Instead I would advise you to be loud, to be weird, to be effortlessly you.

Don't follow the trends if you don't want to. Create the trends. Try. Fail. Try again.

You want to put pink tights and yellow shorts ? Do it ! You want to wear a skirt over your pants ? Do it ! What could ever go wrong ?

The more you will try to be cool, the less cool you will actually be. Just live instead. Live your life, run, dance, scream, laugh, cry, love, be extra. That's what makes you cool.

So instead of trying to be cool, or should I say trying to be perceived cool, we should concentrate on just doing what we think is fun.

Stay weird and most importantly, stay you !

And stay freaky, always !